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Why Men leave the Big House for the Small House

It’s a mind-boggling phenomenon, one that has confused many over the years: how is it that some married men who seemingly have it all — beautiful wives, luxurious homes in places like Borrowdale Brooke, big cars, thriving careers — end up sneaking around with women who live in far less glamorous circumstances?

Let’s talk about Chris.
 Chris lives the dream. A 2024 Landcruiser. A mansion in Borrowdale Brooke. Married to Esther, a stunning and successful bank manager. Two handsome sons. Everything on the outside says, “This is the perfect family.”

But behind closed doors, the Big House isn’t what it seems. Chris, the man of the house, is invisible. He gets food through the maid. His clothes — even his undergarments — are handled by hired help. When he comes home, no one notices. No warmth. No affection. No respect.

Esther is a busy woman, granted. Her career is demanding. But in the process of chasing professional success, she’s forgotten one crucial thing: the emotional and relational service her husband craves. At the Big House, Chris feels like a tenant, not a king.

Out of frustration, Chris starts visiting Melody in Epworth. Melody has no degree, no high-end car, and definitely no Borrowdale mansion. Her house is so small, sometimes it rains inside. But Melody gives Chris something Esther no longer does — attention, care, warmth. When Chris arrives, Melody runs to his car, opens the door, sometimes even lifts him on her back. She cooks four meals before 11am. He isn’t just a man to her — he’s a king. She doesn’t have much, but she gives him everything.

Now pause.

This isn’t just a story about marriages. This is a customer service story.
 Many companies today are like the Big House. They have the best product, better quality, lower prices, and fancier packaging. They’ve got branches in leafy suburbs, nice buildings, and fancy systems. But they treat customers like tenants.

Customers have to beg for help. They are met with cold responses. They are ignored. They leave without being noticed. They ask for service, and are told to come back later. Just like Chris in the Big House, they feel unwanted. Disrespected. Undervalued.

Then, there’s the Small House — a business with no fancy logo, no polished brand, maybe even operating from a tuckshop in Epworth. But when a customer walks in, they are welcomed with a smile. Listened to. Respected. Served quickly. Valued.

And that’s why customers leave the Big House for the Small House.

It’s not about the size of your operation. It’s about how you make people feel.

Here’s the truth:

The customer doesn’t always go where the quality is better — they go where the experience is better.
 The customer doesn’t always go where the product is cheaper — they go where they feel like kings.

So if you’re running a business — ask yourself:

  • Are you Esther or Melody?
  • Is your team giving service or just showing up?
  • Are your clients walking out frustrated, or feeling special?

No matter how good your product is, if your customer service is cold, robotic, or disrespectful, people will find another Melody. Another business. Another brand — even if it rains inside their service.

Make your clients feel seen. Make them feel heard. Make them feel important.