“I don’t want to mix business with relationships.”
I hear this all the time.
People say it like it’s a virtue. Like they’re being noble. Protecting their friendships. Keeping things “pure.”
Let me tell you what it really is.
An excuse.
An excuse to avoid the discomfort of asking. An excuse to stay broke while pretending to be principled.
THE LIE YOU’VE BEEN TELLING YOURSELF
You say you don’t want to “use” your relationships for business.
But let’s be honest.
You’ve asked your uncle for a job. You’ve asked your friend to help you move.
You’ve borrowed money from family.
That wasn’t “mixing business with relationships”?
But asking your network if they know someone who needs your product?
That’s crossing a line?
Make it make sense.
THE STRANGER CONTRADICTION
Here’s what’s crazy.
You’ll buy from a complete stranger on Facebook. Someone you’ve never met. Someone with no track record. Someone who could disappear tomorrow.
But your cousin who’s been in business for 10 years? You’ve never bought from them.
Your former classmate who offers exactly what you need? You went to their competitor instead.
Why?
“I didn’t want to mix business with relationships.”
Meanwhile, that stranger on Facebook just made money from you. And your cousin is wondering why family never supports them.
RICH PEOPLE BUILD BUSINESS ON RELATIONSHIPS
Let me tell you how wealthy people think.
They don’t separate relationships and business. They build business ON relationships.
Every deal starts with trust. Every partnership starts with connection. Every referral comes from someone who knows you.
The richest people in Zimbabwe? Look at how they do business. Family connections. School networks. Church relationships. Social clubs.
They’re not cold calling strangers. They’re leveraging relationships.
And they’re not apologizing for it.
THE REAL REASON YOU WON’T ASK
Let’s get to the truth.
It’s not about being “professional.”
It’s fear.
Fear of rejection. Fear of being seen as “that person” who’s always selling.
Fear of what people might think.
So you hide behind “I don’t mix business with relationships.”
Sounds noble. But it’s just fear wearing a mask.
YOUR NETWORK WANTS TO HELP YOU
Here’s what you don’t realize.
Most people in your network would be happy to support you. They’d be glad to refer you. They’d prefer to buy from someone they know and trust.
But they can’t support what they don’t know about.
You’ve never clearly told them what you do. You’ve never asked if they know anyone who needs it. You’ve never made it easy for them to help.
So they don’t. Not because they don’t care. Because you never asked.
THE AWKWARDNESS IS IN YOUR HEAD
“But Jerry, it feels awkward.”
Only because you’re making it awkward.
You’re imagining some pushy, desperate pitch. Cornering your aunt at a funeral. Turning every conversation into a sales pitch.
That’s not what I’m teaching.
I’m teaching you how to naturally position yourself. How to mention what you do without being weird. How to ask for referrals in a way that feels like conversation.
It’s not awkward when you do it right.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PUSHY AND PROFESSIONAL
There’s a difference.
**Pushy:** “You should buy my product. Why haven’t you bought yet? Don’t you support me?”
**Professional:** “I help businesses with X. If you ever come across anyone struggling with that, I’d appreciate the introduction.”
One is desperate. The other is confident.
One damages relationships. The other builds them.
At Hunter Sales, I teach you exactly how to do the second one.
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE YOUR GREATEST ASSET
Think about it.
Years of building trust. Years of showing up. Years of being a good friend, a good colleague, a good family member.
That trust is valuable. It’s an asset.
And right now, you’re letting it sit idle. Like money under a mattress. Doing nothing.
Activating your network isn’t “using” people. It’s finally putting that asset to work.
For them AND for you.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN AT HUNTER SALES
On April 30th, I’m breaking this down completely.
How to talk about your business without being awkward. How to ask for referrals without damaging relationships. How to turn friends into clients and clients into friends.
The exact words to use. The exact approach to take.
So you never have to choose between relationships and revenue again.
Date: Wednesday, 30 April 2026
Time: 09:00 HRS – 15:30 HRS
Venue: Manna Resorts, Harare
Investment: $97
COMMENT BELOW AND TELL ME
Have you ever lost business because you were too “polite” to tell someone what you do?
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